If I Could Give Advice To My Younger Self,

I Would Say…

Well, mine is pretty short and sweet. Growing up, I was always worried about what other people thought. What they thought of my looks, clothes, hair or maybe what I said, so I was always self-conscious and thought everything had to be perfect.

Well you know that saying “if I only knew then what I know now” is classic and so true! Looking back on those days growing up, I was worried about too much and the wrong things. Who cares if I stand out due to my looks or clothing, that’s a good thing. Everyone should be there own person and not worry about anyone else’s opinions. I was just too worried about everyone else and not me. And perfect? Really, who’s perfect?

Later that grew into being afraid to push myself out of my comfort zone because I was afraid of falling on my face or failing. I didn’t realize that when you fall down or fail at something that you actually grow from that experience. Yes, it hurts a bit, but you learn from it and go on.  I’ve been blessed by having several mentors in my life that have helped me through this process. They have taught me not to let these experiences cripple me, but to learn from them and use them to make me stronger.

So what advice would I give my younger self? Be your own person and don’t worry about what others think. Be bold, go out on a limb and don’t be afraid of falling. And by all means don’t get caught up in the small stuff, it’s not worth it. It will just keep you down. And one last thing, enjoy every moment because you can’t go back!

– Deborah Farrar | President of City Publications Indianapolis –

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